Hello my beautiful greeny apples,
Welcome back to my blog. I have something really interesting to talk about today. I have been taking some time off social media and it’s really refreshing. I honestly don’t spend much time on it like I used to but when I do, It’s to get inspiration on what to write about.
Today I saw a post on Instagram by @threadsviral and it’s about list of things women shouldn’t be embarrassed about and I was surprised that I really enjoyed the thread and feel really glad reading it. In this age and time, it is very much okay not be intimidated by anyone and just be your own kind of person because everyone others has been taken. You need to feel comfortable in your own skin and be proud of everything about you.
This thread shared about 8 things girls/women shouldn’t be embarrassed about and I’m going to be sharing all of it with you all on this post.
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8 Things you shouldn’t be embarrassed about (women’s edition)
1. Your Height
I’m just on the average as a person in terms of height and to be Frank with you all, I have no idea what my height is but I’ve always liked my height and I think after this thread, my height is among things about me that I love. I have never really felt like I’m not tall enough or I’m too short but rather I carry my stool, chair or a strong bowl and climb to take anything that is too high for me and that’s it. To make it worse or interesting, I don’t wear heels which means when you see me coming, I’m in my full height glory.
2. Your Stomach
When I was younger I had a small waist, flat stomach which accentuated my body and to be honest, I’m not hyped over this. I have always been a weird being I guess. I know that I had a nice figure but then i never really saw this as anything other than my body which I’m very comfortable with.
later I started gaining weight and after my daughter genesis, I was blessed with a nice fluffy stomach that happens to be my daughter squeezing toy and her favorite pillow. I’m taking the bouncing back game at my own pace. Sometimes, I actually do feel insecure about how big I am now and also my stomach but the day I realized it doesn’t change who I am and accepting that this is part of motherhood and seeing this as my life, trying to reduce my belly fat seems to be a very pleasing idea because I want it for me and not anyone else.
3. Your forehead
This makes me laugh really hard because my forehead is just what it is. I’m team forehead and I don’t let it bother me like it used to when I was much younger. I don’t make hairstyle that will cover it and I honestly it doesn’t define me in anyways.
4. Your Skin Problems (Acne)
I saw a popular makeup and beauty guru’s post on Instagram which was about her getting her glamed dolled up face cleaned for her fans to see. It was so emotional for her because that was her insecurity. She had all kinds of skin problems like acne, eczema, skin redness and large pores but she felt better and having to let her skin breathe in a long time without covering it up with layers and layer of foundation made her confidence level rise.
I’m always grateful for my skin because I’ve never had any kind of facial skin problem aside hyperpigmentation which I’ve really gotten a wonderful solution to it. My beautiful queens, let your skin breathe. You owe no one a perfect and acme free skin except yourself.
5. Your Period
I’ve had a friend asked me how I cope with my period pains and also went as far as asking if I normally don’t have periods. So many girls/women are very set about this topic and also very shy to talk about them.
I used to hate talking about my periods at all but then I understood the fact that it is perfectly normal and very important for the woman’s body. I also love the fact that the men are getting more involved in knowing more about this type of things.
6. Your Ethnicity
A person’s ethnicity is typically understood as something we acquire, or self-ascribe, based on factors like where we live or the culture we share with others.
Ethnicity is not the same as Race. “Race” is usually associated with biology and linked with physical characteristics such as skin color or hair texture. “Ethnicity” is linked with cultural expression and identification. However, both are social constructs used to categorize and characterize seemingly distinct populations.
You can’t change something that you were born with for anyone. It’s who you are. Let me use the polynesian as an example. Have you seen their tattoos? Their spear dancing? Their outfits and their unique dances?
Have you seen a South African dance steps? Have you seen the way the Fulanis make their hair in Nigeria? Have you seen the lip plate on a Sudanese woman or man?
These are cultures. Don’t let anyone put you down when they fail to see the beauty in your Ankara print of the red mud mask for making your hair beautiful and healthy.
7. Your Breasts
I didn’t think I was going to mention this because of how insecure many girls/women are about their breasts.
Honestly speaking, I am very insecure about this but then I owe no one a perfect body. I fed a wonderful human being for 12 months, 2 weeks and occasional sleep therapy sucking which makes my body amazing.
I have tried so many techniques, methods and ways to get my breasts back to it’s shape before but then I realized this is a normal and wonderful phase which is going to last for a long time.
Weight loss, pregnancy, breast feeding and after, aging, menopause, larger breast size, gravity, collagen deficiency, estrogen deficiency and so many more are factors that can leads to saggy breast.
It doesn’t matter the size because it doesn’t define who you are.
8. Your Butt
Whether it is the shape of a pear, tomato, rectangle, hour glass or it is flat, please you are beautifully and wonderfully made in God’s own Image.
You shouldn’t be embarrassed about it at all and trust me you don’t have to please anyone.
9. Your Hair
I added this myself because I noticed how some black women are been bullied for relaxing their hair.
I hope we can normalize the fact that not every black girl/woman can maintain natural hair and not every black girl wants to keep the Afro. I believe on of the most important thing is to have a healthy hair and something you can maintain.
Lately I’m beginning to see a lot of toxic people and comments on relaxed hair which shouldn’t even happen. I love the idea and the practise of embarrassing our natural hair but some might just be really happy and comfortable with their relaxed hair which is very much okay. I’ve really had a major hair phase which I’m really happy about.
When I want to relax my hair, I do it. When I want it chopped off, I did it. When I wanted it dyed, I did it and when I wanted my fro, I left my curls bouncing.
Don’t let anyone make you feel bad in your own comfortable skin.
Checkout for the male edition and thank you so much for reading.
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